It’s Daddy A’s birthday weekend so I thought I’d stop complaining about how he spends more time on his work and highlight the good things that come with his work. Hehe! HAPPY BIRTHDAY ARJAY!
After four years of being married to Arjay, you’d expect that I already got used to life as a fire officer’s wife. Well, I haven’t. It’s embarrassing to admit (because I feel like admitting it = I’m weak). The truth is, I still complain–quite a lot, really–about the time he spends on his work. And I get angry when his fellow fire officers would tease him every time he chooses to spend time with me or brings me along to their get togethers. Yes, guys. Masakit sa loob! I still get lonely when he’s away. I still cry. I still get angry.
I often ask myself why I married him; why I got myself into this kind of life. I mean, I could have married a normal guy with a normal job.
But that would be boring. But love took over and I married him. :D
Anyway. Beyond the disadvantages of his work, there are really good things about being a fireman’s wife. Like:
The kind of love he gives. Because of the danger tied to his work, he always makes sure that he makes us feel loved. As in super loved. All out love. He tries his very best to squeeze us into his schedule and the time he spends with us is quality time, every second of it.
The Wedding. What’s dreamier than a military wedding, right?
Friends, everywhere. Since Arjay has been assigned in many places, he has made friends. Lots of them. From all over the country. So everywhere we go, there is usually someone we know who can assist us. Car trouble? Call the town’s fire station and someone will come to the rescue. Kids need a snack and you’re in the middle of nowhere (or in the middle of a carmageddon)? Makikain sa fire station. Haha!
You’re in the know. This is both a good thing and bad thing. It’s good because we know what’s going on from the inside. It’s bad because we know what’s going on and I tend to
get paranoid worry for my husband’s safety.
You become like a fireman: resilient. Because during times of disaster, we are on our own. In the last four years, we’ve been stricken by flood higher than an average human. All those times we had to go through it on our own, without my husband, because he needs to put other people first. So we learned to be resilient. We learned to survive on our own until he can come and get us. Even the minis have been briefed about surviving disasters!
But more than being resilient during disasters, we learned to be resilient in life in general as well. Arjay has never stayed in one place for more than two years since he joined the ranks. The minis and I have learned to cope with constantly moving, the changes in our schedule, and not having daddy around all the time.
You learn to love your country…even if it’s the Philippines. Yep. Before I met my husband, my one goal after graduation was to leave this crazy country of ours. It’s not even because of financial issues, but more because I have lost faith in it. But since I married a man in service, I learned to love the same crazy country I wanted to leave. Come to think of it, when I married Arjay, I married the Philippines too. (Or, when I married Arjay, did I become the Philippines’ mistress? Kind of feels like that. Lol!)
SO YES. There are perks when you are a Fire Wife. We may not be able to live a “normal” life like most families, but I am honored to be given this chance to stand beside a hero. :)