If you’re my friend on Facebook, then you probably know our nanny left already. There are just some people who, no matter how good you were to them, will never appreciate and treasure your goodness–let’s leave it at that. So yes, we are now officially yaya-less. It’s just the four of us again.
I’m not going to lie. It wasn’t a smooth transition and we haven’t really developed a system until now. We’ve gotten so used to having someone take care of the house–and the kids–for us for the last three months that when our nanny decided to leave without notice, it was chaos. If she could read this, I’m sure she’d let out a wicked ‘I knew you can’t do it’ laugh. But I’d just give her a smirk because we’re okay with the chaos.
Sure, voices were raised and cries and screams often filled our house…but we’re okay. That’s just the way it is sometimes. There are and will be good days and bad days. With two little ones in the house and a husband who has a demanding work schedule, I can’t really expect to have super relaxed days.
So instead of stressing myself out about difficult days, I just try to enjoy moments with my family–moments where it’s just the four of us; moments we haven’t had much of since our nanny came. Of course, I don’t always succeed. There are times that I give in to the chaos and I snap. Thank goodness I have a husband who understands and is always there when I need a hand. And praise the heavens I have children who are such sweethearts! When they sense I’m stressed out, they give me a tight hug and lots of kisses!
I’m going to keep saying it: No Yaya, No Problem. It can be challenging, especially now that my work-at-home business is starting to grow, but I’m doing fine. I even had my hair dyed to a beautiful blonde hue to show everyone that being yaya-less doesn’t mean you’ll be losyang and unhappy. In fact, it can be a wonderful chance for your family to bond! Plus, you’ll be surprised at how less stressful home-life can be. 😀
If you’re going through the same thing, trust me, you’ll be okay! Don’t have a yaya, too? How are you handling work and homemaking? I’d love to know!
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Helper-less for more than two years and I’m still alive and living great! Hahaha! Even though I’m so tamad to do the chores, I would never ever hire a helper anymore. Malakas sila maka-stress. And don’t forget those chismis they make about you & your family. Haayy! Mas test of patience pa sila sa mga kids, sa totoo lang! Kaya mo yan, Kim! Nakaya mo noon, mas lalong kaya mo ngayon. Lab, lab, lab! :-*
Hay! So true about the chismis part! To think that our ex-helper would spread rumors to our relatives. The point of her saying false things about us to our relatives, I will never understand.
You can do it Kim! Go! The transition bruises us, big time, but when we get our groove of how tobrun things, it’ll be easier. Miss Kelly and Caleb, they’re Sooo cute.
Correct! I’m still figuring out a system that works. When we find it, I’m sure things will be much easier at home! 🙂 Miss you and the kids, Camille! Kulang ang play dates without you guys 🙁
Raising my hand here! Yaya-less for three years and we are absolutely fine. Yes, I have stressful days but not as stressful as having a help around who doesn’t seem to fit the job. At least I don’t have the idea of paying someone to make my world a lot more stressful. Yay to yayaless!
I don’t know what came over me when I hired a nanny, really! We were doing okay naman without help. I guess I felt like I needed some space…but I realize now that if I needed time to rest, I could have just taken a vacation with my family instead of hiring househelp that stressed me out. Cheers to being yaya-less! That’s another P3,500/mo added to our vacation/shopping fund. Haha!
Hayyy, yes! No yaya, no helper for nearly 5 years and never getting another one. Our traumatic experience with the last one is enough to last us a lifetime!
I keep reminding myself about you, actually! LOL. If you were able to do it with three boys, I’m sure I can too.
Oh you can do it, mommy Kim! 🙂
No yaya here for almost 2 years now! I must ‘fess though I wished we have a helper now because of my super arte-arteng pregnancy. The house is a mess and I can’t keep it as clean as I used to because I’m too exhausted to do chores. Hay! Ayoko ma stress.
Don’t worry, Kat! I had a delicate pregnancy with our second, too. We didn’t have a helper back then as well. 🙂
Aja! Kakayanin! 🙂
No yaya, no problem!!! Sa totoo lang, mas nakakastress pa nga when they’re around. I’m sure God has brighter plans for the for of you. I miss youuuuu!!!
That’s what I keep telling myself! It is a bit stressful and tiring not having someone to help me around the house, but compared to the stress our last yaya put us through, parang mas okay na ‘to. 🙂 We haven’t seen each other since October! Haha! I hope Kelly and Nini still know each other =))
No yaya can be a problem too if no one takes care of the toddlers especially if both parents are working out of the house.. It can be a no problem if a mom or dad like you is working at home… So it really depends on the situation.. But I agree with you mommy Kim, it can be stressful too but in the end it’s all worth it because having quality time with the family is incomparable.. genuine happiness and peace is attained!
I meant to say that it’s not a problem if one or both parents can be home. 🙂 It’s a different situation if both parents work out of the home. Thanks for the comment, Donna!